Marriage Amendment to MN Constitution to be Voted Upon in 2012 Election

I’m interested in how the political and legal debate develops around the issue of same-sex marriage. I had the opportunity to record a Skype conversation with OutFront Minnesota’s legal director, Phil Duran, about the marriage amendment to the Minnesota Minnesota Constitution that will be voted on by Minnesota citizens (along with voting on the various political races) during the 2012 election.

For a little background, this is from a 05/23/2011 news post on the Minnesotans United for All Families website:

An antigay marriage ballot measure approved over the weekend by Minnesota state lawmakers is already setting the stage for a deeply divisive campaign of national importance.
On Saturday, the Minnesota house voted 70 to 62 in favor of the bill, which allows voters in 2012 to decide whether to adopt a constitutional amendment banning marriage equality. The vote came after hours of debate and days of impassioned Capitol rallies on both sides of the debate.

Minnesotans United for All Families is the name of a coalition of organizations, which includes OutFront Minnesota, that are against the amendment.

The issue brings up questions about whether there should be something called Civil Union. Whether same-sex and hetero couples should all be grouped into Civil Unions rather than calling the state-sanctioned title marriage. Also, if there is such a thing as Civil Union, is that inherently unequal to marriage? Will the amendment be supported by the more libertarian wing of the republican electorate, since it appears to impinge on private ideals of freedom? Will this hurt the fragile Minnesota economy by scaring off potential employers, employees and those looking to start a business in Minnesota? Does this help anyone or is it just a flexing of religious/political muscle to impress a base constituancy?

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Problem Gambling – What is it? How to Identify it in Yourself and Others? What Resources Available?

I’m excited to introduce this post because it includes a very helpful video interview (see below) regarding Problem Gambling.

This is an update to a post that I did on Problem Gambling back in 2009 and another post I did about National Problem Gambling week back in 2010. This time, we’ve got video!

You’ll also want to also check out the Minnesota Institute of Public Health “Gambling Problems Resource Center“.

Minnesota Problem Gambling Helpline Number   1-800-333-HOPE.


Paula Detjen

Compulsive gambling has a major effect on Minnesota families. I have recently been learning a lot about problem gambling and how it affects families from Minnesota therapist Paula Detjen. Continue reading

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Justice is Blind …and Hungry!

Ponder this…based on the information below, do you want a judge deciding your co-parenting schedule or custody determination at all, even if it’s after the judge’s lunch break!?  It turns out that the time of day, and perhaps whether the judge had a snack or lunch before your hearing, appears to make a difference in judges decisions.

“Do you ever get that 2:30 feeling?” asks an energy drink commercial. “Tired? Groggy? Dying for a nap?” It turns out judges get that 2:30 feeling too, and when they do, you don’t want to be the defendant. Dr. Shai Danziger, a psychologist and cognitive neuroscientist from Ben Gurion University of the Negev, recently completed the most rigorous study of Israeli parole hearings ever conducted. His results were shocking: judges were far more likely to dole out lenient sentences after meal breaks and became increasingly harsh the longer they went without eating.  I wonder what the implication is here related to the timing (what time of day) of child protection cases and order for protection hearings?

The dotted lines on the graph (right) represent food breaks. As you can see, immediately after the judge’s morning snack break, they granted parole to 65% of cases. Then the proportion of cases in which they granted parole dropped sharply and steadily until the peckish judges stopped granting parole almost entirely. Although the legally relevant details such as the prisoners’ behavior did affect decisions, they don’t account for the pattern above. Danziger controlled for every possible variable, but nothing explained the trend: sentences weren’t affected by race, gender, or even what crime the prisoner committed. The judges had no knowledge about the cases ahead of time, so it’s not possible that they scheduled cases in any particular order. Danziger also demonstrated that this trend wasn’t due to any sort of subconscious inclination to dole out a certain number of harsh judgments, nor to a tendency to take breaks after harsher cases.

Judges were just in a better mood after lunch, and that’s all there is to it. It is well documented that in the US, African Americans receive harsher punishments than whites, all other factors held equal. But Danziger’s study suggests that even if we were somehow able to eliminate all discrimination, justice would still quite often be disturbingly arbitrary. If something as simple as the time since their last meal affects judicial decisions to such a great extent, imagine what other factors in the judges’ lives are randomly tipping the scales of justice. Judges are people too: they get divorces, they get put on hold with their credit card companies, they have fights with their teenagers, they get that intense urge to sneeze but then can’t sneeze all of a sudden (so frustrating!) If being a little hungry can make a judge less likely to grant somebody parole, could having an annoying Taylor Swift song stuck in their head during a child support contempt hearing make them more likely to put the defendant in jail? And just imagine the fate of the poor sap whose trial is held just after the judge’s computer has crashed.

Judges like to think their decisions are based on a consistent application of the law. Ideally, the court could just input the variables of the case into a computer that would spit out the same court order every time. Judges do everything they can to eliminate the foibles of human judgement from their decisions. But fundamentally, human judgement is really the only thing that defines this enigmatic invention we call “justice.” Therefore, all the human imperfections and irrationality that we created our laws in order to control end up oozing into our supposedly rational application of those same laws. But we still want our judges to strive for impartiality (and it looks like Apple is still a long way off from developing the infallible iJustice computer judging system.) So what is a citizen to do? The only thing you can do: if you want the judge to be amicable, make sure your custody hearing gets scheduled after lunch.

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Can Emails or Texts Be Used in My Divorce/Custody Case? (Video Interview Carney Forensics)

Modern technology is changing the world more and more every day. People are finding their spouses through online dating services, pro-democracy groups across the Middle East are organizing via Facebook, and nowadays everything from your cell phone to your coffee pot has a computer chip in it. And the more our lives become digitalized, the more relevant digital evidence becomes to family law cases. That was the topic of my interview with John Carney, the founder of Carney Forensics, which helps attorneys, companies, and investigators gather digital forensic evidence. Watch the full video interview here:


So what is digital forensics? The most basic example would be threatening text messages from your ex, which can be used as evidence in family court. In fact, phone records, text messages, Facebook posts and emails can all be subpoenaed in certain cases. But beyond that, things can start to get complicated. What if you can’t figure out how to access all those old text messages or emails? Or what if a critical piece of evidence is hidden deep within a hard drive? That’s where Carney Forensics comes in.

After three decades in the technology sector, John Carney obtained a law degree and branched out into the growing field of digital forensics. He is listed as a Minnesota Qualified Neutral according to Rule 114 by the Minnesota Supreme Court, and can even testify in court as a digital forensics expert. Here’s a neat video that John Carney did with WCCO TV related to the Murdoch phone hacking scandal.

So, if you want to make sure you and your attorney can present the most important information — perhaps even if it has already been deleted from a computer or phone somewhere — then call the technological super-sleuths at Carney Forensics.

More info at: carneyforensics.com
Or call (651) 695-1757

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How to File a Motion to Modify Child Support in Minnesota

Do you have a child support order in Minnesota and are looking for help with a motion to modify child support? We can help! We’ve helped tons of people with motions to modify child support. Did you lose your job or change jobs so your income has changed? Is your income lower than it was when your child support was last ordered? Did your medical insurance change? Did your childcare or daycare sitution change? Is your child or children now in school and doesn’t need child care anymore? Call Arnold Law and Mediation at 507-786-9999. We help people all across Minnesota with motions to modify child support.

For the Minnesota Court Forms to make a Motion to Modify Child Support, click here.

We can help you! Call and learn more at 507-786-9999 or email arnoldlawandmediation@gmail.com.

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Ex Spouse Communications – Video Interview with Founder Joan Pechauer

Joan Pechauer, LMFT

Do you have trouble communicating with your ex-spouse about co-parenting issues? When you see that you’ve received an email from them, do you get that anxious feeling in the pit of your stomach that feels like you just drank a glass of motor oil? Well never fear, Ex-Spouse Communications is here! Founder Joan Pechauer says, “Send us your ex’s nasty email and we’ll write an effective response for you. ” That’s right: they will draft you a response letter that will express your concerns without starting a fight. This is the solution you’ve been waiting for. Watch my interview with Joan here:

Imagine this situation: your ex sends you an email saying they want to change this week’s parenting time schedule. Again. And as always, they couldn’t be more demanding about it or more inconsiderate of your scheduled plans with the kids. What you might find yourself doing in this situation is writing a strongly worded email back, telling them how rude they are to wait until the last minute to make this request, backing up your arguments with examples from when they have done this sort of thing in the past, maybe taking a shot at that new person they are dating who thinks they can contradict your rules for your kids, and totally putting them in their …STOP! That approach is not going to get you anywhere, and you know it. Your ex-spouse will never be persuaded that they’re wrong, no matter how good you think your points are. All that’s going to do is get you into another exhausting fight. So instead, just take a breath, and let Ex-Spouse Communications help.

You know what? If it helps you vent, go ahead and write your angry letter and send it along with your ex-spouse’s email to Ex-Spouse Communications. They will translate your belligerent rebuttal into an emotionally neutral response that is much more likely to actually get your ex-spouse to consider your legitimate concerns — and that’s really the goal, right? And if you need more than just an email, Ex-Spouse Communications also offers phone consultations and coaching.

To learn more about Ex Spouse Communications or if you are just looking for some free tips on what to do and what not to do when talking to your spouse, or free samples of effective letters, check out exspousecommunications.com

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Unmarried Fathers’ Guide to Paternity, Custody, Parenting Time, and Child Support in Minnesota

So, you are an unmarried father and you want to know about your legal rights with regards to your child? Well here’s a couple of questions: have you filled out an ROP or is there Presumption of Paternity or are you filing a petition for a Paternity Order? Are you planning on going pro se? Oh and one more thing: does the mother have an OFP, because if so it’s going to be hard to do PTE.

Confused? You’re not alone. The legal process surrounding paternity, custody, parenting time, and child support are complicated, especially for unmarried fathers. That’s why Central Minnesota Legal Services has put together this totally free guidebook (from mnfathers.org) for unmarried fathers in Minnesota who want to know more about their rights and their options.

Now, a guidebook is no substitute for legal advice from an attorney — if it were, I’d be out of a job. But it is helpful to understand the basics before you walk into an attorney’s office. This guide has a ton of helpful features like a quick reference dictionary of the legal terms you are likely to hear, an explanation of your rights as a father and how you would go about establishing those rights, and info about self-help centers and legal clinics that can help you navigate this at times confusing process.

Have a hard time paying child support? Worried about the mother trying to move the child out of state? Want to be legally recognized as the father? Interested in obtaining custody or parenting time? This may surprise you, but doing nothing won’t help your situation. Instead, check out the Unmarried Father’s Guide to Paternity, Custody, Parenting Time, and Child Support in Minnesota. You’ll be glad you did.

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