“Leave your tent at home. There are no sleeping bags, campfires or mosquitoes at Daisy Camp. Instead, enjoy a one-of-a-kind weekend of support and education. In between, you will learn from lawyers, child psychologists, and financial planners. You will be inspired by motivational speakers. You will be empowered by other experts about various aspects of divorce.”
The next Daisy Camp weekend retreat (as opposed to a day retreat) is scheduled for September 20th, 2013.
I was really impressed, when I read the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson. This is not your ordinary couples self-help book but is instead a research-based handbook for couples looking to work on their relationship and looking to learn how to make a better connection and avoid old patterns of relationship conflict. I was curious to learn more, because it seemed like a really helpful and important book.
The video below is a Skype conversation that I had with Laura Barbeau, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). She uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in her therapy practice and she also teaches a course on EFT based on the book Hold Me Tight.
The class consists of around 8 sessions, 2 hours long each, that discuss the chapters of the book in a group setting. Here, couples converse about issues with the whole class, leaving less time to focus on insignificant details and more time to solve the root of problems that apply to so many couples. Laura believes conflict is present in any relationship and finding a healthy way to approach problems is a skill that will inevitably be useful to any couple.
To learn more about Laura Barbeau’s Hold Me Tight class, go to Laura’s website by clicking here.
I’m especially excited about this post about Daisy Camp founder Jennifer Morris. Not only is it regarding a great topic, Daisy Camp. It’s also one of the first interactive videos that we’ve recorded through Skype. We hope this will be a start to a series of interviews with helpful people like Jennifer Morris regarding helpful divorce/separation topics, like Daisy Camp. If you have ideas for future videos, let me know by commenting below or emailing me at arnoldlawandmediation@gmail.com.
In the video, I ask Jennifer Morris how Daisy Camp started, what Daisy Camp is about and who is a typical Daisy Camper, among other questions and answers that will give you a good sense for whether Daisy Camp is right for you!
Daisy Camp was founded in 2006 by Jennifer Morris, a local realtor who emerged from her divorce with a belief that women need more support to help them through this important transition. Jennifer’s unique idea of helping women through a “camping experience” has captured the attention of local and national media and has changed the lives of many women. Today, hundreds of “Daisies’” throughout Minnesota and beyond continue to gather regularly and help each other make the most of their new, “ever-expanding lives”.
While some level of conflict is to be expected in a divorce, does it seem like your divorce centers around a seemingly never-ending elevated level of conflict? Here’s a way to find out whether your concerns are well-founded. In the first video of Brook Olsen’s High Conflict Diversion Program he lists twenty situations including provoking the other partner, not wanting to give the other partner access to the child, and refusing to follow court orders. If your divorce exhibits 5 – 10 of these situations then your divorce is at risk for high conflict or has elevated conflict. 10 or more of the situations apply to you? It’s probably accurate to say that your divorce involves a high level of conflict. Take some comfort in the fact that you’re not alone: 25 to 30% of divorces involve high conflict while 60% are high conflict or at-risk to become high conflict. You can sign up to receive the free videos (don’t worry there are transcripts in the emails if you don’t have time to watch the whole thing!) at highconflict.net. The program sends out videos periodically so we’ll have to wait to see what strategies and solutions the program proposes, since I signed up myself so I could get all their helpful information emailed to me! http://player.vimeo.com/video/7891004
Do you have a child support order in Minnesota and are looking for help with a motion to modify child support? Call Arnold Law and Mediation at 507-786-9999. We help people all across Minnesota with motions to modify child support. Call and learn more at 507-786-9999 or email arnoldlawandmediation@gmail.com.
Thinking about filing a motion without using an attorney? This video from the Minnesota State Courts offers helpful information about the steps involved in filing a motion by dividing the process into seven sections. In particular, the video describes how to complete a Motion and Affidavit in Support of Motion, details how to serve the other party by personal service and by mail, and specifies which forms to file with the court. While the video’s dry tone can be boring and perhaps condescending, it’s apparent that the court wants applicants to realize the implications of filing motions incorrectly (including having your case dismissed, paying fines or even paying the other party’s legal fees) and be aware of alternative options such as consulting with an attorney or seeking mediation. If your case is common and straightforward the video could be a helpful resource for going it alone. But if your case is a little more complicated, you might want to consider some of the other options the court suggests.
Call Arnold Law and Mediation at 507-786-9999. We help people all across Minnesota with motions to modify child support. Call and learn more at 507-786-9999 or email arnoldlawandmediation@gmail.com.
I recently learned that DaisyCamp is now a non-profit organization (great news for everyone!). Their next retreat is scheduled for August 12 -14, 2011. They now have a “.org” website at www.daisycamp.orgwith updated information!
To register for a seminar:
e-mail daisy@daisycamp.org
call Marlys Ousky at 952-405-2060
When you register, you will receive an email confirmation with directions to the event and a reminder to send payment. If you prefer for Daisy Camp to NOT email you back, please call Marlys instead of using email or online registration.
When you receive confirmation of your registration, you can mail your check payable to Dasiy Camp and send to 3300 Edinborough Way • Suite 550 • Edina, Minnesota 55435
If you are interested in attending, but unable to pay the $60 fee, please contact Marlys at 952-405-2060 who will work with you to see if a discount can be offered or if a scholarship is available.
Jennifer, the founder of DaisyCamp, has a compelling story. From the DaisyCamp website:
In 2005, I went through my divorce. It ended up being a gift, though it was definitely in disguise at the time. I was lost, afraid, hopeless and terribly sad. Out of my own need for help and direction, Daisy Camp was born in 2006.
I discovered that during my divorce there are so many decisions to make, at a time you are least emotionally equipped to make the most important decisions of your life. I was determined to help other woman navigating divorce, so I created Daisy Camp. “D” is for divorce. “D” is for Daisy. Like a daisy, a divorce can signal a fresh start.
Each camp is a treasure chest filled with amazing people. Women attending the camp will begin an incredible journey of finding joy in their ever-expanding life. I am proud to have created such a wonderful program that has changed the lives of so many people and influenced so many families in their healing.
Five years later, my dream of Daisy Camp becoming a non-profit is a reality. And in my life today I am free to be me and all that I am meant to be, free to be happy, free to live, free to love, free to enjoy each moment, free to make space in my life for new beginnings, free to let go…
I invite you to participate in Daisy Camp. I applaud you for your courage in taking a leap of faith to attend Daisy Camp. Daisy Camp will inspire you too!
Love,
Jennifer
The DaisyCamp mission, from their website:
To provide a safe place for women facing divorce to get the support and reliable information they need for their ever-expanding life, through:
- Creating a supportive environment by treating all Daisy Campers, and each other, with warmth, respect, honesty and dignity.
- Providing women with referrals to the best resources maintaining the highest standards of creativity, honesty and excellence.
- Actively contributing to the betterment of our families and communities and the quality of life before, during and after divorce.
About their DayTrooper retreat:
Attend this information packed divorce seminar if you are:
Thinking about a divorce
In the divorce process or
Recently divorced
Here are just a few of the topics covered:
Legal 101 and Beyond…
Understanding your legal options in planning your new life.
Financial Nuts and Bolts
What’s mine? What’s his? Spousal maintenance? Who decides? Do I have my own credit? Can I qualify for a mortgage?
ABC’s of Real Estate
Do we sell in this market? Can I buy something else?
Keeping the Children in the Center, not the Middle
What about custody, visitation, and support?
Includes beverages, snacks and lunch
For more information contact:
e-mail daisy@daisycamp.org
call Marlys Ousky at 952-405-2060
Christine Ubben submitted the following seminar for publication on Always Family Center. Thanks Christine!
FREE FAMILY LAW SEMINAR
5 THINGS YOU NEED TO CONSIDER IF DIVORCE IS IMMINENT
Sponsored by The Law Office of Diane Kaer, Attorney &
Stacey Brown, Financial Advisor with Edward Jones
Date: November 9, 2009
Time: 6:30 – 8:00 pm
Location: 3420 155th Street West, Suite 103
Rosemount, MN 55068
If you are contemplating divorce this seminar is a must! Gather preliminary information about the process and what to expect. Learn about some of the resources available if you cannot afford representation. Find out what information you should be prepared to provide to get started. See how the changes in our economy might impact important decisions you will be faced with, and more….
THERE IS NO COST TO ATTEND!!
ADVANCE REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED
Refreshments provided
To Register Contact:
Diane Kaer
(651) 322-9244 or diane@kaerlaw.com
or
Stacey Brown
(651) 322-2905 or stacey.brown@edwardjones.com
Minnesota Family Law attorney and family mediator Carl Arnold created and manages Always Family Center as a free resource for people that are dealing with family conflict or facing divorce, paternity (unmarried parents), custody, parenting time, child support, division of assets and debts and related issues. Mr. Arnold is trained and experienced in Mediation, Collaborative Practice Divorce, Early Neutral Evaluation (ENE), Parenting Time Expediting (PTE) and Parenting Consulting and enjoys offering these great alternatives to clients. He offers a free initial consultation to help you understand your options.
